I can't have orgasms anymore

When i was around 14 years old, i would masturbate almost everyday and i would actually get orgasms. I stopped masturbating for a year or two, and now i cant really feel enough pleasure to get an orgasm (im 17). I feel pleasure during sex, but not enough to feel like im gonna orgasm. Both my partner and i had tried playing with the clit but it doesn't feel that good. I think part of it has to do with the fact that i find my vagina extremely gross (idk why, but i just do). I cant stand the thought of touching my vagina, even though I do it to clean it everyday. Can anyone give me some advice on how to get an orgasm and accept my own body??