My mum kicked me out the house three years ago because I got married to a man she doesn't like, to be honest my family are quite racist and anyone who isn't white is a no, no. She never spoke to me for six months. I was the one who had to make amends with her and the family. About four months after making amends with the family, I found out I was pregnant, so I told her. Her reaction was she wasn't happy who the dad was but she's fine with it (as if she has a say in the matter).

Fast forward 9 months- the day I had my baby I let her know and she said she was coming to the hospital to see me and the baby. Then she messaged to say she wasn't coming because there was no point as by the time she comes, I will be discharged.

I finally got home wanting to catch up on sleep and bond with my baby after a long night, and I get a text from my step dad saying for me to come round because the family was upset that they hadn't seen the baby. Stupidly I went round and the minute I walked through the door there was a massive swarm to the baby, no one bothered asking how I was or giving me a hug.

My mum kept pushing for me to formula feed (which I don't want to do). She said that formulas better as you know how much the baby is drinking, blah, blah, blah.

Two weeks later I went to see my mum and I had a doctors appointment. So my mum suggested I leave the baby with her and go. So I did. After the appointment I found the step dad buying formula milk to feed my baby, after I had said no! I get to the house to my mum answering the door and saying, your babies been crying, so we gave her sugar. I quickly packed everything up and called my husband to come get us. My mum had just given my two week old baby sugar!!!

Fast forward 7 weeks - every time I go to my mums she always wants to hold my baby, she calls her 'her baby'. She keeps telling me to leave my baby with her. Every time I go upstairs to feed her, minutes later my mum follows and sits in the room till I'm done and takes her off me. If my baby is crying for a feed she will put off giving her to me for as long as possible, until I get frustrated and ask for her back quite rudely, as I can see my baby is in distress and needs a feed.

I'm just so angry and feel like not going back to my mums because she doesn't treat me as my babies mum and think she's her mum. She takes her off my chest when she's sleeping, she wakes her when she's sleeping. The other day my baby was crying because she had just had her injections and my mum was holding her and she told my baby to shut up!!! She also has in her mind that when my baby is four years old, she's going to take her to Disneyland without me or her father.

Is this the type of behaviour to be expected with the first grandchild? To me it seems a bit weird!