Wondering if anyone is having this issue & what you are doing/did about it?

A little background: my husband and I got together in the beginning of 2016. I got pregnant three months in, we got engaged. My daughter was born dec '16. I got diagnosed with fibromyalgia last march. We rent a house and my friend and her 2.5 yo daughter live with us. We got married in the beginning of August. My husband works 30 hours a week at UPS and I'm a stay at home mom. He can't wrap his head around the fact that with two kids, two cats and a dog, and me being borderline disabled we can't keep the house spotless and we were arguing about that a lot recently but figured it out.

But now he does everything he can to not help me with our daughter. His excuse is always that he works. But he just sorts packages **in the afternoon** Monday and Friday and tue-thurs he works morning shift delivering. That's it. He never wants to help and when I do get him to he asks me for help with every little thing to the point that I'm still the one taking care of her and he's just holding her while I do it.

Before he went to bed earlier he said he's refusing to wake up with her tmw morning (even though I did it today and let him sleep in until NOON) because it's Labor Day, it's his day off from work and he's doing nothing. I told him I don't get a day off and he said nothing, just went to bed. Im having a flare right now and I haven't showered in four days. Something needs to be done. I'm about to tell him we need to see a relationship counselor. :( anyone else have this problem? I'm losing my mind.