monster in law 😠

so for the last year and a half I have been having problems ,I moved in with my mother in law and partner when I was at the end of my pregnancy and it was all going well ,or so I thought after I had my baby she started to get hissy with me all the time and take controll with what and how I did things with my baby and also she would start saying insults but try and put them in a nice voice all the time,eventually after me baby sitting for her all the time (including in my birthday) we finally had three arguments and she was questioning my parenting all the time ,so I moved out and since I have had my new home with her son and our baby .She don't bother and she's always making it my fault and giving remarks .but how do I put up with it she comes over and her and her younger children disrespect my home , she still trying to control everything including our money .any one eles gets this problem 😠? need advise