Gender disappointment still?

My LO is almost 1, born a month early. When we found out the gender, both my husband and I were disappointed that it wasn't the opposite one. Here we are almost a year later and I am still dealing with gender disappointment. LO is our rainbow baby and I feel so absolutely guilty for feeling this. I have no one to talk to about it. Is there anyone who feels the same? LO also had a kinda traumatic entry and I was not able to hold LO until about a week after arrival. I don't feel like it's my baby even though I know LO is. I just feel so alone.