When did you know?

So I’ve been with my SO for some time now & at the beginning of our relationship, when we first started having sex, we asked ourselves “what would we do if we got pregnant?” Since then we’ve had about 2 pregnancy scares. The first one was really bad because it was towards the beginning of our relationship & I for sure thought we weren’t ready & maybe I’d have to abort (even though I’ve always been the type of person to say I would never do that, I couldn’t help but think of what my family & friends would think or how we would afford to have a baby). Now, the second scare was more recent & although the same questions popped into my head, I wasn’t actually as scared as the first time. I now figured it might be a struggle but it’d be our baby & we would be doing it together. Thinking about if we got pregnant now, I still have mixed feelings. A part of me thinks no we’re young & shouldn’t have a baby (p.s. we both have jobs & I’m going to school & will be graduating in May) but another part of me thinks, if it happens then it happens & we’ll do it together. But I really want to know...

* When did you know you were ready to have a baby?

*& if it came as a surprise, When & how did you find out the big news? & how did you decide what you were going to do?