Is it over??

I can’t believe I’m actually writing this even as I sit here, but last night my husband of 3 weeks lay hands on me.

To make a long story short I started a new job recently and I had to go to Texas for training. I invited my husband to go with me because he was off work the time I was going. I bought him plane tickets etc. The week before the training I was told there were going to be evening team building events. I asked my boss if my husband could attend since he was traveling with me and my boss said he could only attend 1 of the 3 events because the events were really intended for employees only.

Well I knew this news would upset my husband because he can be the jealous type. So I didn’t tell him about the evening events until the last minute.

He became extremely jealous/upset and said I was “deceiving him” and even went so far as to say I made up the email from my boss and really had plans to meet up with my “corporate boyfriend.”

So he eventually decides to still come with me on this trip but during the whole trip he is extremely mean and rude. I apologized to him over and over for not telling him about the evening events right away. We finally get to the hotel and we sit at the bar and the more he drinks the more belligerent he becomes. He gets so nasty with me that he actually tells me he “hopes I meet my future husband” at these corporate events and that “I don’t know who I’m fucking with because he’ll fuckme up.”

All the while I’m trying to get him to calm the hell down. After his “I’ll fuck you up” comment I got up and went back to our hotel room, got his bag and took it back down to him at the bar. I set it down next to him without saying a word and went back to the room. My message was “get your own room tonight.”

So a few minutes after I give him his bag he’s knocking on the hotel room asking me to let him in and “not leave him homeless.” I told him he needed to apologize because he had no right to talk to me the way he did. He said sorry so I let him in and got in the shower. I shut the bathroom door and heard loud banging noises against the door. I open the door back up and he is THROWING things at the door!! His wallet, his wedding ring, his watch, things off the hotel table. I told him he needed to STOP! Then I shut and locked the door and took a long shower hoping he would calm down.

While I’m the shower I decided screw this! I’M getting a different room. I got out of the shower and put all my things back in my bag. I called the hotel desk and asked if I could get a different room. He hears me make the call and comes up to me and says “you’re leaving me?” He pushes me up against the wall twice and just keeps saying, “you’re leaving me? You’re leaving me?” So I said no I’m just getting a different room. Let me leave! He let me leave but called me a few names on the way out, bitch etc.

Now let me just say A. I have never cheated or given him reason not to trust me. B. We’ve been together a year and a half, living together for over 6 months and just got married 9/30 and I have NEVER I mean never seen this kind of behavior from him. He’s never called me names, laid hands on me or so much as raised his voice to me.

He’s been jealous yes, but never controlling or anything.

So what do I do???? Is it over?? Is this my sign of things to come??? What do I do???