Need some advice pls

I am in a LDR.

The problem right now is that my family is struggling and I'm doing my best to keep my family together and making sure they're taken care of. Although my family and I may not come to terms on a lot of things that I do for myself they're very dependable and reliant on me.

But my bf does not agree with the things I am doing for my family. Because of so much drama involed with them. But I love them to death.

In high school although I've always been high honors and taking college courses at the same time I grad. Late to help my family.

And as of recent I had dropped out of college because my family needs me.

My bf and I have discussed a lot about school and our future and moving in but because of my lifestyle and my culture and my dedication to my family he feels like we won't grow as a couple. And In all honesty I agree with him for the most part but at the same time it's my family. And they will always come first. So when I had told him that I'm not forcing him to stay in this relationship with me and that he feels he needs to be someone to grow and have a future with without the hold of family keeping them back then I understand and he's more than welcome to leave the relationship. But now he's upset that I said that and still wants to stay in the relationship. So I'm confused because its like don't get upset at me and then not follow through. I'm just idk right now and I'm frustrated and I just what should I do ladies?