Am I obese? 🙇🏼‍♀️ please help!

I’ve gained a good 40 lbs in the last 2 years and I used to be very small. I know I am nowhere close to skinny but a lot of relatives and friends like to poke fun and talk about how much weight I’ve gained. For example my uncle shot a nerf gun at me and I said”that didn’t even hurt”. His response was “it’s because you put on all that cushion” and that’s a nicer comment. It makes me super insecure and I’m not sure if I have “eyes” that maybe just don’t see myself as big as everyone makes me out to be. So my question is if you saw me in public would you consider me a “big girl” or chubby or pretty normal. Also if you would like to give any weight loss tips that would be amazing! Thanks!!

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