LADIES what do i do??

so my husband and I have been addicted to porn since we were young. we got married and found Jesus. we've been battling our addiction but it seems like it's been a little easier for me. I always watched lesbian porn and my husband watched gay porn. He tells me everytime he slips up and I'm never judgemental and always forgiving because we've both been there. Is there a point where I should say enough is enough?

I was away for one night last week (staying at my parents) he told me he looked at stuff when we got off the phone and he said he went to bed. we've been trying to live a righteous way, steering clear from sin...while it's the hardest thing to do..it's made us closer and my heart change towards him and his family (live with his parents) and just love unconditionally.

but everytime he slips up.. I get really emotional but I don't let him see me cry. we've both done things to each other (no cheating) but enough to make each other feel insecure and lose confidence.

He's much better now but I personally feel like crap. even though he looks at gay porn, there will be random girls as well and it messes with my head. I stopped caring about my looks, gained 30 lbs, no make up or cute clothes.

he met his ex wife online, and two other people he dated online. (one from a porn site)..please any advice on anything would be much appreciated.