Please Help!! Things seem to be falling apart.

I feel that my husband and I are becoming more and more distant. I know I have been nagging him a lot to do things to help around the house. When he says he will and doesn’t, I get so frustrated with that dishonesty. I work and need help with keeping the house up and preparing for baby #2 (due 4/16/18!). Our first born is turning 3 in feb.

I am feeling very stressed. Our home is very disorganized (and plain dirty honestly) which is really overwhelming for me. Not to use mental illness as an excuse all the time, but the depression that comes with my bipolar disorder often defeats me rather quickly each day. I used to feel more support.

He used to be more patient with all my demands and not really get upset when I got upset. Things are changing. He is starting to prioritize gaming and friends over helping and talking with me. Not feeling jealous, but neglected in a way. He says it’s just him being absent minded and his ADD (says he thinks about the task and then his brain tells him it’s done?), but I also think it’s more that he is caring less and less. He’s been putting more hours into several types of gaming and spending a good amount of time on the phone as well. Forget any multitasking for him when talking on the phone. His new, more “absent” behavior is very discouraging as our second child is coming very soon and he doesn’t seem to be looking forward to her being here.

I know a second child will also take a toll on our relationship and I need to figure something out before that extra factor is in equation. Please offer any advice!!! Thanks.