I’ve had problems with clingy partners in the past and they’ve usually determined the end of my relationship. I’ve never considered myself a clingy person. I can’t even honestly say that I would share a bedroom with someone again. I love having my own space.

On average, I would say I would expect to talk to my partner on the phone, maybe once per day and maybe a text here and there. I work full time and have children so I definitely wouldn’t want to see a partner daily or be required to talk on the phone all day. I’d also love to be able to talk to my partner when I’ve had a bad day, or to share good news, etc

So here’s the situation, I’ve NEVER let felt like the clingy one in a relationship. I’ve actually always been the one who someone is trying to get more time with. However, my current partner makes me feel like the clingy one and I hate it. She would be perfectly happy never talking on the phone and sending 2 texts per day- Good Morning and Good night. It would feel totally normal to her to go 2 days without hearing from her partner.

This is so strange for me because I’m so used to being the one who typically “needs space.” I’m not used to being told that a partner would not wanna hear from me for 2-3 days on straight.

It’s also rather confusing because I feel like there’s a lot of hypocritical-ness that happens- she’s very used to me picking up the phone when she calls, but when I call her, a lot of times there’s no answer. However, if that ever happens on her end, she feels some kinda way and legit gets upset.

I love her, but our communication is so messed up. I’m a talker. She’s not so she’s never the one to actually ASK any questions about who I am. We’ve been dating for 5ish months and she is JUST now finding out why I don’t have a good relationship with my mother. Yet, I know her family’s complete history BECAUSE I ASK!

Ultimately, I wanna know what’s average? Is it normal to not hear from your partner for a few days? Am I clingy? If so wtf was I previously dating?

Sadly, I’m at the point of breaking it off and I just need some clarity as to why I would be doing it.