3rd Degree Tear

TMI: this may be a long post and TMI. I'm posting anonymous. I had my baby 4 weeks ago and I got a 3rd degree tear. I used frozen tea pads at the hospital and derma spray for numbing and itching. I continued the spray and peri bottle at home and I still use the peri bottle at 4 weeks pp. I was pretty itchy a couple weeks ago and now I'm noticing I have a weird feeling like stretch ripped feeling in the general area of my butt crack. Im not sure if its something to be concerned about. I tried to look at it and it looks red and irritated so maybe thats why it feels like that. i did take a bath for 20 mins the other day but that didnt help or make it worse. Ive been wiping with sensitive wipes when I poop because using the peri bottle was a disaster and it doesnt clean me up all the way. could i be irritated from the wipes? ive also been having a hard time pooping. i actually cried once because it hurt so bad. i do take softeners to help but its only soften them a tad so its still painful to go sometimes. has anyone had this issue or have ideas to help soothe things?