to find out or not to find out?

Sooooo I've always wanted to be surprised by my healthy baby's gender on the day baby is born. My husband is adamant he wants to know as soon as the doctors know. My mother also wants to know ASAP. I don't understand, there's literally no surprises in life anymore, and I know I'm not going to be surprised with a baby shower (no one ever tries to surprise me)... why can't I be surprised with this?? My husband has suggested gender revealing at the shower so people can get us gender appropriate stuff... but it's not a surprise if you tell everyone ahead of time! I'll be the only one surprised and I might not react well lol but it be overwhelmed....ugh I don't know 🤦