SO checking out girls for friend in front of me

So on Friday my boyfriend and i were at a party here in college and he always tends to say rude things that he doesn’t even recognize are rude to say in front of me with his guy friends and we got into a disagreement Friday night because i was standing next to him and one of his buddies asked him “which one should I bang” pointing to two girls, and my boyfriend looks at one and points at the girl and says “her” then double checks them out, shrugs & says “actually either” right in front of me. I looked at him with disbelief that he would say and look at them like that in front of me. I asked his friend why he would ask him that in front of me, and the friend was a little embarrassed. I walked out and didn’t talk about all the walk home, I was being very short and dry. We get home I go to bed and he’s talking with his buddies downstairs. He finally comes into the bedroom and says “r u mad at me” and anything I ever say to him is never understood so I have to be careful with what i say and how I say things so I don’t trigger him. I said “I’m not mad I just feel a bit disrespected after what you said in front of Ryan” “all I would like to feel better is an apology and acknowledging it hurt my feelings.. you can say whatever you want, just not in front of me.” And he continued to say “I don’t feel the need to apologize I did nothing wrong and I’m not going to”. He never apologies for anything he does and I always have to bite my tongue and get over it myself. He doesn’t communicate whatsoever and I don’t know if this was a situation I overreacted in or was right in fighting for. Any thoughts? He makes me feel crazy all the time.. I know I am not.