Husband Rant

Can someone tell me if I’m being hormonal or justified in feeling hurt/sad.. or both?

Yesterday was my birthday. My husband cooked dinner, which I was greatful for, and then decided to bring up that his buddy (40 y/o on his second marriage with 2 kids already) is having a bachelor party at the end of June. I’m due at the beginning of May. We have no family or friends that live near us and it annoyed me that he brought it up.. like

1. wait til tomorrow or the next day,

2. we’ll have a less than 8 week old at home,

3. Y’all are all old ass men and had your partying days- grow up!

But I brushed it off and went on with dinner. After dinner I said “hey babe, what’s for dessert?” And he says “what do you mean?”, to which I replied “it’s my birthday -what do you mean what do I mean?” we always get each other cookie cakes for our birthdays as a tradition and he didn’t. Just totally didn’t even think to get a cupcake or cookie or anything for my birthday. It makes me feel very looked over and not noticed anymore. A few days ago he told me he feels like when things get hard with the baby that I’ll just hand him off and say “here you take him” Which hurt my feelings really deeply like I’ll be a bad mom or something. I’ve been feeling really sad and just overall bad about myself. Ive gained weight (45lbs already) and he hasn’t touched me in months. I’ve talked to him and he apologizes but I don’t feel like anything is really getting resolved. It’s like he apologizes but goes about his business like I’m not me anymore and I’m not really there. Am I crazy?