Didn’t want to change surname

When I got married I didn’t want to change my surname. So on our wedding day the vicar said my surname and the in laws went mad. Didn’t speak to me all through the day and didn’t speak to me for 6 months because of this. I only hyphenated it for my husbands sake. He kisses his parents asses and won’t have anything bad to say about them. I got my sons ears pierced cuz I thought he looked cute and done all my kids done at a youngish age as soon as they seen that they went mad again and told me to take it out of his ear otherwise they won’t see him til it’s gone. So I left it in there n didn’t see them for 9 months. Told them New Year’s Day was pregnant they went off their heads n said I’m stupid and didn’t I hear of contraception. Arguing and shouting and ffg and blinding. All in front of kids. So I told them if they ent interested get the fuck out of my house. My kids my house my life. Simple. Hubby told them to apologise. But I feel all it that it’s fake. It’s not real. They don’t like I’m with him. Don’t like me. What do you think I should do. Kind of had enough of them dictating what I can and can’t do