Am I crazy for not wanting to have a birthday party. Please read and comment

Ok so, I have a 4 year old, and an almost 2 year old and I’m having a pain in the ass pregnancy. We are building a house, husband works out of town m-f and my dog had puppies (we have 2 left the rest went to good homes). I’m very creative and love DIY things, so naturally I have hosted from scratch every birthday party in my kids combined 5 years. BUT I also get extremely stressed out each year with finding a “venue” to have the party at (since our house is being built), making the cake myself, making al decorations and invitations and stressing over food and guest lists. I mean stressed out to where I’m having panic attacks the day of and biting everyone’s heads off to make sure everything gets done right. You know, one of those moods where you can’t even stand yourself.

Well finally this year for my daughters 2nd birthday next month I’ve decided I’m not doing it! We have wayyyy to much junk and toys as is in our tiny rental (trust me, they do not need more toys. We still have toys from Christmas put away. And she has all her sisters gently used summer clothes so we really don’t need clothes either.)

Plus if even do as much as mow the grass or pull weeds I bleed and start having pretty painful cramps and even once has a scare with contractions after doing yard work. So I do not want to overdue it (which I know I will).

PLUS her birthday is the weekend of my 4 year olds first dance recital so we couldn’t do it that weekend.

PLUS my family is impossible to work schedules, meaning they’re all at least an hour away and it’s almost a guarantee half of them wouldn’t make it or would cancel at the last minute.

PLUS SHES 2. She doesn’t care about parties. She doesn’t have any “friends” to invite.

Plus I’ll be 30 weeks at the time of her birthday. So there’s that.

Soooooo I want to just take the girls to the zoo, take our time and spend a relaxing day with each other, including daddy since he’s only home on weekends.. Get ice cream, take pictures, buy her a stuffed animal and t shirt at the gift shop, etc. I thought it was a good idea. No rush. No hassle. No planning. Just a fun laid back day with my girls.

But everyone thinks I’m crazy for not having her a birthday party. Should I just have a little “party” that weekend where I get a food lion cake, and dollar tree decorations and it’s just immediate family and who cares, just so she can have a party? Or do you think I’m fine just having a fun day out with the girls instead.ugh.