How to tell my older sister, who miscarried, that I am pregnant.

Hi Glow Community,

I need your advice on how to tell my brother and sister-in-law that I'm pregnant. I would especially love to hear from ladies who have been through what my sister-in-law has.

My brother and his wife have been TTC for several years and has done IVF twice. They miscarried their twins at 7 months and it was very hard for her and for our whole family. The twins were the first grandchildren for my parents.

She's in her mid-40s, and the miscarriage was 2 years ago. She is of course still recovering and talks about missing her twins often. In the past when friends have told her that they were expecting, she cried and had to leave the room.

So, now I'm pregnant! I want to share the news and be joyful about it, but I also want to be sensitive for the sake of my big bro and sis.

I plan to tell everyone in my family separately and keep it low key.

Now this is where I need your advice:

How do I tell them?

Do I tell them at their house?

Do I do it at a restaurant so she can leave?

Do I tell them over FaceTime?

And...what do I say? How do I say it? Do I show her how excited I am? Do I down play it?

How do you tell someone your happy news when you think it's going to make them sad?

I'd really appreciate any guidance through this. Thanks!