Do I have a right to tell people not to play with my son?

Question

My son is 14 months and sometimes when I’ve just settled him down after playing or crying etc and he’s just being quiet watching tv, or when he’s eating his food, my mom and my sister come in trying to play with him which starts him off crying again. I even leave him alone for a while because if anyone gives him any kind of attention he wants to start being wild or throwing a tantrum again. Or he will throw his food and want to play. So sometimes I tell them leave him alone for now. Apparently I’m being a bitch by doing this? But I don’t think I am, I’m his mother and I should think I have the right to tell people when to leave him alone.. after all they don’t actually have to look after him when he’s acting up 🤷🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

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They need to back the fuck off & learn the meaning of a boundary.

You are the Mum, no one else. They need to listen to your direct about your child. 
If they don’t, come back at a more reasonable time. 
End of story!

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Maybe it’s the way youre saying it? Did you explain? 
Something as simple as “he’s winding down for a nap” should be enough.

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It might just be the way you’re saying it 🤷🏽‍♀️ try asking nicely and just let them know it’s because you don’t want him throwing a fit and let them know they can play with him after he is done doing what he’s doing

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No you are not being a bitch. You know what is best for your LO and they need to respect that! My Mom is the same way. My LO is 3 months and easily distracted right now and has a limited awake time and she will come when he is eating and try playing with him and NOT when he actually is playing. Like no - go away! lol

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this! my family does the same thing and it's horrible because we live with them! i know they love him and just want to play but it gets old fast

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Damn straight you have a right too. People don't understand you have to deal with the consequences of other people not listening to the mother. I tell people as they walk in the door what kinda mood my toddler is in or what to do or not to do if they can't respect me as a mother in my own home get the fuck out. If it keeps happening I would tell them next time it happens they can deal with the consequences because i will just leave them to deal so they can understand what you go through. Who cares who thinks your a bitch

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You definitely have the right to enforce any rules with your children you see fit. 
No sugar other than fruit after supper drives my inlaws crazy.
But if he’s constantly throwing tantrums TV time might be your issue. At 14 months it’s still recommended to have 0 screen time, and too much screen time is linked to impulse control and tantrums. Not sure if it’s just the way you worded it, or actually a problem. But definitely it wanting your child riled up so he can eat or get ready for bed/nap should be common sense!

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I’d do that, too if my son is that way when he’s older

Do I have a right to tell people not to play with my son?

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