Who should feed?

Question

I’ve slept 45 min so far today. Baby woke up. Hubby doesn’t want to feed him because he has to be at work early, so my extremely tired self is feeding our baby. I begged him to take this shift and he says it’s not right. Am I being selfish asking him or should I really just man up and press through the sleep deprivation if this happens again?

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My husband had to go to work when our son was small, and although he was more than happy to help and always woke up when I did, I insisted he got his sleep for work. On the weekends he would get up and feed him and he’d let me sleep. I think you just need to reach a compromise, but yes he does need to sleep if he’s going to work everyday.

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Erm he’s just as responsible as you are for your baby! He needs to help

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Have you tried right when he gets home let me cool down then watch the baby while you sleep a couple hours till he goes to bed that’s what I would do ! Since I was off for maternity leave I let him sleep through the night I would be up all night basically but I would ask him to watch baby when he got home so I could get a few hours in

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I don’t think that waking up once in the night is going to prevent him from being able to function at his job. He should help you, especially if you’re extremely sleep deprived because it’s not like you get to just sit on the couch all day while he’s at work.

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Being a SAHM is hard work too. We need to be well rested to function properly. So no, I don’t think it’s unreasonable to ask for him to take one feeding each night. Even if he helps on the weekend! Frankly I’m annoyed that I just typed “help”. It’s his kid too.
Regardless it doesn’t matter what anyone here says, stand up for what you need.

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My fiancé never helped with night feeds but he did stay up and do the dream feed at 10-30-11. I could then go to bed at 8.30 and didn’t have to be up again until my baby woke through the night. 
I didn’t expect him to get up through the night when he had work but I appreciated the help late in the evening so could shower and sleep for a good solid hours.

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He should help, but if he needs to work, then he’s gotta sleep. You can sleep when the baby sleeps, and baby wear when he’s awake to get things done, or use a swing, rocker, etc. my husband would offer to get up in that situation but I wouldn’t let him because he works hard every day. As long as he’s helping out during the day after work

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I always figured there was no point both of us being exhausted, and hubby works with heavy machinery so would be dangerous to send him to work tired. But I made sure to remind him of letting him get a good nights sleep if he got home and asked why the house wasn’t clean or why dinner wasn’t on the table!

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I didn’t even have to ask my Husband to help out with night feeds....We did it two nights each and it’s still the same now our daughter is 8 months and an early riser (5am) so we kept with the two each. I’m still off work my husband works full time and hasn’t once complained. It’s our Baby not just mine.

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