I met this guy three years ago in school we were both in our 20’s. I was 23 and he was 29. Well when I met him he was still married but we became good friends. We get along so well and have lots in common. We still after all these years have kept in touch he separated with his wife two years ago and that’s when I started to sleep with him when he was separated. I lost my virginity to him a year and a half after I met him. I lost it while he was separated. Well he got back with his ex wife to co parent and co exist for their now 9 year old little girl. He told me that he was falling for me. He fell in love with me since the first day he met me. I didn’t say anything and just smiled. Well he just told me that the reason he’s been mia is because he’s been going through some stuff and that he is going to file for divorce because he isn’t in love with her. It makes me wonder if what he said this year is true. But I don’t even want to bring it up. Since I’m also going through a tough time. I am done recuperating after brain surgery. He was there emotionally but not physically because of his situation. Now because of that surgery I have had complications since then with my lungs and I’m having another surgery this upcoming Monday where they are going to open up my throat, biopsy my stomach and potentially remove my gal bladder. I have to see another doctor on Friday for my lungs since I have trouble breathing throughout the day.

I just don’t know what to think ladies of his situation and what his intentions are because he told me just last week if I had moved on and if I had been sexually active since I last saw him. I don’t know why but I started crying. I fell in love with this guy I would not go around and haven’t gone around just to hook up with someone random.

My sister says be there for him while he’s divorcing her and my friend says who knows maybe you will end up with him. I just don’t know what to do I’m so confused. I love him a lot and see myself with him but I don’t know what his intentions are. He would tell me too that he sees himself with me just didn’t do anything because he was with her.

What do you all think? Please note I did not start to sleep with him until he was separated and had his own apartment and the ex wife moved out of state. I haven’t seen him since then we have just been texting.

Should I wait and see if he wants to be with me officially or move on?