are my parents normal?

To all moms out there, I need some of yall opinions. I’m 18 years old now and I’m the only child of my parents. Ever since I was little I’ve realized that I was not given as much freedom as other kids has in general, like my folks would not let me to sleepover at my friends house, or even when we were traveling with families they would not let me wander off along with my other cousins (when I was around 7-10) and always keep me by their side.

I had no problem with this overprotective behavior and for years I havent been complaining. I have a healthy social life and have plenty of friends, but I admit most of the times I could miss out on some occasions such as going out on a road trip or drinking and partying etc. It was never a problem since I’m also kind of an introverted person and enjoyed my time reading or making music at home. The thing that sort of bothered me when I was still living with them, is that they really lovee to spend time with me. They’re in my room 24/7 and sometimes I have to make them leave, which ended up in me feeling bad afterwards. I used excuses such as I needed to study and to concentrate, when really I just wanted to have some privacy to watch a tv series or something. That was it though, not that big of a deal.

Things got worse now that I started college abroad. I live in an apartment with 1 housemaid. Basically they’ve installed a cctv camera that can also record sounds. Seems like no big deal since like most houses has it until I realized they’re watching it 24/7. It was supposed to be used only as a precaution if things go wrong, like if there’s some burglary or somthing. I asked my mom and she said she was only watching to observe my housemaid. But the other day when I was coming out of the bathroom only with a towel, then my mom suddenly called me saying that I shouldn’t have done that. Last night I was heating up some noodles, and the next morning she called me saying that I should’ve woken up my housemaid to heat up the food for me. It get to the point that I’m creeped out, I’ve confronted my mom about this and she snapped right back at me. Mind you that I’m 18, and the only thing that make me feel bad is that although I’ve been working, I still live off of their money. But isn’t it actually a little bit weird? I’ve told her that the cameras are only supposed to be used if there’s a need to use it, if she missed me she could just face time me instead and not observe my every move like a creepy stalker.

2. I have been dating this guy for over 2 years now and his mom asked me if I wanted to go to Thailand with them. They will cover for all the expenses so basically this was purely an invite. Usually when my parents would not let me go on any trips without them they’d say that they cant afford me spending that much money on unnecessary things which would shut me right up. This time though they do not have to spend a single penny. and so I asked them and my dad said no (as expected). Funny thing is, last week there was a terror attack on a local church in my hometown, among the victims 2 children were killed and the media has been covering their news all over the place. So basically my dad decided to use this case as his lame excuse to not let me go, he said this world is turning into a dangerous place and that they can’t afford me being out and about exploring the danger that is the world. Thats the biggest bullshit I’ve ever heard in my entire life! those 2 kids that has been killed were with their parents, and they ended up dead anyway, what difference does it make if I stay beside them, if my time has come then it will come, just as those 2 kids time came, no matter where I am. I can’t let their fear of the world limits my freedom and chances to experience new thrills in life, I only got to live once. I honestly can’t deal with this anymore, but everytime I tried to voice my opinions they always say that I’m being selfish and that I can’t understand them. Aren’t they the one who can’t understand me and are being selfish?