Need a little insight

So I’m not sure where to start. Three years ago my Fiancé and I got together. When I was telling my family (mom and step dad) about him they heard his last name and immediately started making racist comments (he’s Hispanic, and I’m white) and assuming he’s a bad person. Through most of it I just ignored it and tried to brush it off as my family is not very welcoming and racist towards people who aren’t of the same race. When my family realized that I wasn’t going to leave him just because they didn’t like his skin color they started to make accusations about his family (ex: saying his dad was an alcoholic, which he’s not!) they started in on telling me things that would scare me like trying to convince me that he would beat me and that he’s not ever going to treat me right. Even though I knew who he was and that he would never in a million years do that to me I was scared because I’ve had a past of violence and being beaten and raped. I broke up with him and I was in agony the whole time we were separated but I tried to do things to get my mind off of him. Nothing worked and I realized that I was being stupid and I was falling into exactly what my family wanted. I was unhappy because I wasn’t with him he made me feel like the only girl in the world. Despite what my family wanted I did what I felt what was right and I got back with him. And they started with the same stuff so I moved out of their home. a few months pass and it started to dye down and I thought everything was going to be fine that maybe they accepted who he is and aren’t going to treat him that way anymore. We ended up pregnant (a surprise but not unwanted) and then everything seemed to be starting up again. They started to try to push him away, they tried telling me he would beat me and my baby. When that didn’t work they started to spread those rumors to other people amongst my family giving them false information about him so when they met him they immediately had a bad image of him. So my whole family is bashing him and it all started because my mom and her husband are racist. The further my pregnancy got the worse my family got. When our daughter was born she was premature because I had a premature placental and fluid abruption at 33 weeks so she had to be in the nicu. We had a list of 5 names that could go into the Nicu and see her. I put my mom and stepdad on the list along with his dad and brother. That was the worst mistake I made. It started so much more stress on both my fiancé and I. I was hurt that my step dad didn’t want to see my baby (I’m assuming because of who her dad is) so I slowly started to cut him out of my life. He never once saw my daughter or even asked how she was, his only concern was to spread rumors about her daddy by saying that she would never have what she needs and that I would have to do everything alone etc. I was fed up and I told my mom that if they wanted to see my daughter they had to apologize to my fiancé and never speak of him like that again. My stepdad refused and said he had nothing to apologize for and that it was wrong of us to keep the baby from them.

When we brought my daughter home we wanted to wait 2 weeks before letting anyone come over and see her as my fiancé and I wanted to get the hang of parenting, get settled in and have some bonding time with our baby. She was preemie still and was only 35 weeks gestational age when she came home so I wanted to let her immune system strengthen a little more as well. When I told our families that no one could see her for that amount of time his family was very understanding and helpful by saying if we need anything just ask. But my family was a whole other ball game. They tried to say that he was forcing me To keep her away from them and that he is controlling me. They were causing a lot of drama and posting all over Facebook and even talking to people that have nothing to do with us about how they think he’s beating us and mistreating us when he’s been doing nothing but good And making sure that I have everything I need (I was breastfeeding and so I was a bit more sleep deprived than he was) he’s an amazing dad and does everything he can to ensure that our daughter will never go without. As she got older I just completely cut my step dad out of my life, I figured that if he really cared about me or my daughter than he wouldn’t have acted the way that he did. My mom tried to make amends and it worked for a little while until she was diagnosed with Hepatitis C. I was fine with my mom seeing her we just asked that since my daughter was always cutting herself with her fingernails and she was teething, she always had an open wound somewhere so I asked that my mom not kiss her and if she had any open wounds, no matter how small that she not hold her. She started saying I was being out of line and that I had no reason to ask her to do those things. (Incase you’re wondering Hep C is transferred through blood) also with how small she was at the time my daughters doctor informed us that is she was to contract hepatitis c that there wasn’t much they could do for her because the cure is a form of chemo and by the time she would be old enough to withstand chemo she could already have liver failure. These weren’t things I was willing to chance. My mom told us that she would compromise and do as we ask but every time I would turn my head she was kissing her in the face and when I would tell her not to her response was “I can, I’m not hurting her” so I kept my daughter away from her for a while. She’s almost 17 months now, I’m expecting our second baby and everything seemed fine so a few days ago at my younger sister’s high school graduation I decided to go try to make amends with my mother and step dad. That night after I got home I immediately regretted it I just couldn’t stop thinking of the way they treated my fiancé and I. The way my mom just dismissed my parenting choices, or the racist remarks they made about my fiancé, all of the stress they’ve put us through. Would it be wrong of me to go back to the way things were and keep them out of my life even though I was the one to initiate the amends? Do I cut them out of my life completely? I was up all night last night and I feel so lost I need help.