So I’m having an issue and I need some help from you lovely people. I dated a guy let’s say his name is Bernie. I have dated Bernie for a year and we ended up breaking up due to me not having feelings for him anymore and it just wasn’t right to still be with him if I was having feelings for someone else.

I then met a guy named Don (not his real name but let’s just keep it that way). Don and I met during my fall out of my relationship with Bernie and he was a friend and that’s all I saw him as. After six months of him sticking with me (Don) I decided to give him a chance. Don and and I have been dating for 5 months now which I’ve been enjoying. But in the back of my mind I still think about Bernie.

Bernie and I had a good run but there were things in him that I just knew I couldn’t really relate to, for one we had different political views and I always clashed with his parents because of the way they thought of things. Don and I have the same political views and never argue about anything. Bernie also doesn’t really know what he wants to do with a career he’s been switching back and forth and still has no idea (he’s 24) still young but it’s time to get serious if you want to settle down ya know? On the other hand Don has been pretty stable and has an ideal of what he wants to do (he’s 26).

I guess one of the things and my point across I’m trying to say is that for me to think about Bernie and I never dating again breaks my heart but I understand it was a breakup. But with Don I be never felt this way before. (Cliche I know) but it’s the best reference. He has his plans set and even though he lives two hours away and thought the distance would break us apart but it hasn’t. Something I noticed was that every time I go visit Don, I’ve cried every single time I’ve left because I get sad that I won’t be with him, when I’m at his apartment I forget that I live anywhere else and that’s it’s always been my home with him. And in all reality I never felt that with Bernie. And it’s crazy because I’m visiting don this weekend but I’m already sad because I know I’ll have to leave back home on Sunday.

Did I do the right thing of leaving Bernie and being with Don? What are your thoughts? Help!

Also I want to make clear that I don’t have an regrets with dating Don because he’s made me so happy, but i just want to know why I’m still having these weird feelings towards Bernie.