In-Laws Rant

So for the most part, my MIL and I get along pretty well. We can talk and have civil conversations about anything.

But...

She constantly makes me out to be a bad guy...

I’ll be having a piece of chocolate and my son (15mos) will be practically ripping my clothes off trying to snatch it from me and when I don’t share, he cries. In comes the MIL with this “Awe is Mommy being mean?! Mommy won’t share with you? Here’s a snack!” 😐

My son has problems pooping so he gets juice everyday with his meds. Because of the juice, I don’t like to allow him sugary stuff throughout the day. I water the juice down but still. He’s 15 months old. He doesn’t need sweets and candy.

Literally every time he cries around her, she comes at him with “Awe, did mommy do this or that.”

She has never EVER said “Awe did Daddy...” when my son cries around my husband.

Backstory. This is why it irritates me. I have a (bonus) son. I don’t like to use the term step-son because it feels too impersonal to me. Anywho, my bonus son’s mother is straight psycho. Like depths of hell evil demon. Bitter baby mama that doesn’t care who she hurts as long as she gets her way. So obviously my husband’s whole family hates her.

I feel like they’re so pre-programmed to hate the woman my husband has a child with that they automatically hate me even though my husband and I are very happy and take wonderful care of each other and our children.

I’m just frustrated. They make me feel like a red-headed step-child. Given, obviously they don’t know me as well as they know my husband but my family treats my husband like gold and I guess I was kind of expecting the same from his family toward me. But they don’t spend any time at all trying to get to know me. They will literally invite only my husband to do something with them right in front of me and then I feel like an ass because he says no just because they didn’t invite me and he knows it hurts my feelings.

We used to live 8 hours away from my in-laws, close to my family and when we told them we were moving up , they were so sweet and welcoming and nice to me. Now that we’ve moved up, I’m completely alone other than my husband and son, and even though I see my in-laws on a regular basis, they make me feel invisible. Half the time, I feel like they’re actually trying to AVOID me.

I’ve talked to my husband about it and he’s so quiet and awkward that he doesn’t want to say anything to them. He at least makes effort to make it up to me by making sure I don’t feel so alone all the time but it literally takes up all his time doing that.

I’ve even tried inviting them to do something with me and they all get awkward and make up some BS excuse. My SIL literally used the excuse that it was raining and she doesn’t like to drive in the rain...

So here I am, 450 miles away from my family and totally alone other than my husband and son. Feeling like my in-laws despise me for no reason.

Just needed to get that out. 😢