Insecure and Depressed

So I’ve struggled for a long time with depression and my self-esteem. I sometimes feel like my fiancé doesn’t love me anymore, he’s not as affectionate, he never just cuddles with me, and he never wants to have sex with me. I said something the other day about how I always have to ask him to cuddle with me (like before bed or when we’re relaxing). He doesn’t even give me a kiss when he gets home like he used to. I have to ask for a kiss.

He says that because I ask, he doesn’t want to. He said it’s unattractive how insecure I am.

I tried explaining that if he hadn’t started acting different, I wouldn’t be so insecure now. He doesn’t listen. Last time he got really distant, he left me for some one else. He came back pretty quick and I let him because I missed him.

He doesn’t think I have a right to still be bothered by it (it was about two years ago).

He says it’s different now because we have a baby. I told him that I don’t want the baby to be the only reason he stays with

How do I make him understand that his actions affect my self esteem and mental health?

There’s a lot more that plays in but this is the most reoccurring (every day) problem.