Really Important question!!!

So ladies please don’t judge and just help me in the best way u can.

I’m confused to as if this guy is douchey or not/ manipulative.

Our situation is complicated.

So he is my ex boyfriend(#2) and I’ve always had some problems with him. I called it off with him a little while ago like a few months ago but we have still been talking and stuff.

So tonight he decides to get mad at me because I say I want to visit my friends who live kinda far. One of my friends happens to be my ex(#1) and he’s the only house I can sleepover when I go up to visit. But my ex boyfriend(#2) got really upset with me and was like saying all of this stuff like if u really care about me u wouldn’t do it cause it makes me upset.

Basically he knows I still love him but I broke up with him bc of me and his differences and I didn’t like the way he treated me sometimes. But we aren’t seeing each other or anything so idk why it’s any of his business.

The only reason I’m fighting him on this so much is bc he recently was basically “seeing this girl” who really loved him but had to move and they were acting like a couple and fucking and stuff which made me upset and he knew it but I told him I obviously have no right to tell him what to do Bc we aren’t anything but friend in relaity. He even told the girl that he still likes me and that they weren’t exclusive and he fucked other girls and still tried to date me while seeing her because “he couldn’t love”. The story is longer and dumber but I’ll save it unless anyone wants to know.

But basically he thinks that Bc I broke up with him and love him and Bc I’m not ready to date it makes me at fault for not caring / respecting his feelings and that if he’s sad that I should want to not do it. But that it’s okay for him to do it because he doesnt love anyone and he’s not the one who’s not ready to daye and that he would “date me for me” if i wanted to.

I feel like he has a right to get upset Bc everyone can have their feelings but it’s so hypocritical of him to give me a lecture about it. I don’t feel like I owe him anything since we aren’t anything. I never promised him anything.

I might later update with screenshots of the convo . Thanks :)