Recurrent pregnancy loss and infertility.

Sometimes I am torn between being incredibly private and between knowing how lonely you can feel and wanting to let others know they are not alone. It’s a subject many don’t talk about because it’s heartbreaking or it makes others uncomfortable. She’s not talking about it, but there is a good chance if there is a woman sitting next to you, she has experienced 1 miscarriage or more, has been trying for months or years with no luck, or has chosen to not have children and has to sit through the sometimes painful question “so when are you guys having a baby?!” For most of my life I didn’t think I wanted to have kids (I had a rough childhood) but when I changed my mind I became part of that 1%. 3 pregnancies in 12 months. I was pregnant for the better part of a year with no baby to show for it. I had friends who were trying to get pregnant get mad because I got pregnant so easily. But my belly never grew, most never knew something was different. I had 3 doctors tell me it was “bad luck”. Luckily, the fourth time I became pregnant, I had my healthy beautiful daughter. I know other women out there have had it so much worse but I hope we can try to be kind to one another. Let’s stop asking “when are you having a baby” and instead be there to listen if someone needs support.

Despite finally having my rainbow baby, this article made me cry. I wish I had read it while I was struggling but I hope that maybe it will help someone else feel better. Make someone else be less scared to ask for support.

https://pregnantchicken.com/hyperfertility/