I am the stepmom in this situation, and my husband and I do everything for his 2 Boys. He is the primary caregiver (moms get every other weekend and pay child support), -2 Moms from 2 marriages prior to me. The kids do great at school, etc. if it was left with their moms we know the situation would not be ideal for them.

I mean just because we are primary caregivers the moms end up being deadbeats who are always broke, in between jobs or saying they are broke but will do things that suggest otherwise and makes them the “cool parent” at the time. Boys are 15, and 9. Primarily talking about the 15 year old’s mom.

We would love to goof off and be the cool parent but we are always the strong and steady and responsible ones. Leaving very little room for doing extras or taking family trips. Doing everything, paying for everything (because they don’t always pay child support or additional things required) and making sure they have everything they need.

So in the end will the boys grow up to appreciate what we gave them or will the fun parent always win?

We don’t always get consistent breaks because the moms cancel weekends sometimes and have other things they would rather do than take their kids on their weekends or scheduled times. I can’t plan anything for Hubby and me because I can’t count on the plans working out.

Guess I’m just feeling frustrated and wondering how this all will turn out in the end