Should I lose it before? Please read!

Question

I won a night on a 4 stars hotel, so me and my boyfriend are going away alone on a weekend, we are both virgins and we both want to have sex. But I don’t know if I should loose my virginity before so we can enjoy better that night at the hotel, or if I should seize the night in the hotel to make my first time more “magical” or something. I am really worried about ruining that night, if sex for the first time is too painful

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Do what feels right if you think waiting till then will stress you out because you want it to be a special night than do it before. Sex can be awkward sometimes especially if you are nervous, and especially the first time. But that’s totally okay. Being less stressed will also help make the first time better! If you can’t relax or get aroused enough that’s what can cause the first time to hurt. If you are calm and make sure to spend a lot of time on foreplay then the sex shouldn’t hurt. Also don’t try to make it perfect bc that can just be stressful, relax and enjoy it. If something awkward happens you can both laugh about it. :)
Also if you decide to wait because you want your first time to be more memorable but the moment comes and you get stressed-out it’s okay to wait! Do it when you are comfortable because that’s really the right time be it before, that night, or a future night.

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To be honest, if you truly trust your boyfriend and you try to remember that you are supposed to enjoy it, I don't think it will hurt as much as you think it will. But at the same time, koodos to you if you want a little prep time. You're the one in control here so you gotta make it happen on your terms. For me, it hurt a bit cuz I forgot to relax but after the initial shock of it all, I really enjoyed myself and got so into it that I surprised myself.

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Do whichever feels right. But knowing what I know now I’d want to get the first time out the way so I’m ready to get wild at the hotel.

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I heard it’s not terribly painful with lots of foreplay. I think you should just pay attention to how you feel in the moment with him. Maybe that will be the deciding factor in the end game.

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OMG let me tell you my first time I hated it, it hurts so bad my husband had several girls b4 me and I was a virgin when I met him I did not like it but obviously 6 1/2 kids later I'm a pro and it's awesome. do what feels right if In the Heat of the Moment it's something that you both want then go for it if you're both old enough I mean but Don't Force It it's a beautiful memory you'll talk about it later in life and you don't want to regret it by bumping heads or maybe him poking you in the belly button LOL

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In my experience after losing my virginity it hurt the next 6 or so times as well.
Ensure that he fingers your first to help you relax then lots of lube. It does make a difference. Those are the things I didn’t do I know now it would have helped. As to when you lose it that’s on you when your ready

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