I like you but...

My boyfriend’s dad is amazing. He’s a great cook, a great dad, and an overall nice guy. Some things just bother me about him. He doesn’t let my boyfriend dress the way he wants.

My boyfriend is very much flamboyant. He likes scarves, pinks, and purples. Ya know, things considered “girly”. We were on vacation when he spotted a nice lavender Irish cap when his dad walked over and said, “I’d never let you wear that. I mean, come on man, ya know?” I just stayed silent, but I could see on my boyfriends face he was a little sad and upset.

I knew for the longest time, that he wanted a scarf. He tried a lot to convince his dad, but it was the same answer every time. “Scarfs are for girls”, “They make you look weak”, or “You’re a man, men aren’t a supposed to wear those kinds of things”. His mom would always say, “let him dress how he wants. It makes him happy.” So finally, I just went out and bought him one for Christmas. I knew his dad wouldn’t make me return it, and the smile on my boyfriends face was worth it all.

There was another time my boyfriend ordered a whole bunch of gloves. One pair in particular he liked. They were gray, and had a sparkle shine to them. His dad forced him to give them to me because again, “They are too girly. You aren’t keeping them.” He TRIED to get away with it, and almost did. His dad looked at my arms and went “where are the gloves?” I was confused because I didn’t know about any gloves, and my boyfriend took me back, gave them to me, and explained the situation. I told him I didn’t mind lending them if he wanted to wear em, but he denied and said it was for the best.

It really makes me sad, cause there’s this pink hat and shirt I wanna buy for him, but I know his dad will absolutely flip his shit. I’ll just wait till he moves out.