HELP! My fiancé said that he doesn’t love me anymore😭
Hey ladies I’m in a situation!
I have been dating my fiancé for 3 years now, we are 5 months pregnant. Before we got pregnant we hadn’t slept together in about 4 months (because he didn’t want to), we nearly broke up in February and then he initiated sex of which I became pregnant.
Since December he opened is third eye (for those who don’t understand - he became conscious of the world and he has embarked on a spiritual journey with god.)
He was a virgin before me (even tho he didn’t tell me until about 4 months back and I was straight with him from the start that I had slept with someone before him (not an ex; just a FWB).
Now he has always seemed to have an issue that I slept with someone and since him reading the bible about 1 month back; he is now fixated that ‘i should have saved myself, I’m not clean as there was another sole to enter my temple before him and we can’t ever love and connect as deep as we want to because I was not a virgin’ he also told me that he cannot make love to me because of it. Now he doesn’t find me sexually attractive to the slightest, he doesn’t want anything romantic he just sees me as a friend (more like a sister actually, like he now sees me and loves me like you would a sister).
I too have embarked on a a religious journey and have begged god to forgive me for my sins. I still love him like a partner tho and would go to the ends of the earth for him and he knows that.
He still wants to get married to set things right as he lost his virginity to me he feels obliged to marry me and he says that he wants to for the sake of himself me and the baby. However it is clear that is will be a sexless marriage. Just more so a friendship.
We have touched upon the fact that in the future he wants another wife, one who is a virgin and to have children with but he wants me to be his first wife still, he Is uncertain whether we will have more children since we are not going to be romantically involved with one another, I seem to be more of a life long friend to him but it is uncertain we will have that companionship.
This breaks my heart because I don’t want anyone else but him. He isn’t mean of abusive in any way he is just a normal guy, but he is everything to me, I pray he will change in the future and want me the way I want him. As much as it hurts me I feel I am willing to sacrifice my happiness forever just so he doesn’t leave me. He apart from this (weird situation) is one of the good guys. I’m honestly a ride of die for him.
I know some of you will just think this is ludicrous, I just still would like different opinions of this, to see it from an outsiders point of view, what would you do?
Any advice related to staying? Anyone know of a similar situation?
Do you think we could ever rekindle our romance in the future?
Thanks for taking the time to read it!
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