Marriage ugh!

So I've been married for 10 months. my husband is stationed in the new city we live in and so is his mother 🙄 . She was mad that he moved me here and didn't make her his dependent. so she's had some hard feelings for me for a while. But we now tolerate eachother. So she's moved into her apartment and has had him over there everyday for 4 days straight. I feel like I'm fighting for his attention and now I'm pretty much over it. I feel like we're room mates. like she can ask or tell him to do something and it's "ok..Here I come". But if I do I the same it's "Who, what, when, where, and why". I just don't understand 🤷