He won’t go down... 🙃

Ok, so my husband and I have been together 4 years and I can probably count the number of times he’s eaten me out on both hands with no problem. When we first got together he told me that he didn’t like doing it but later admitted that he only said that because he had never done it before and was scared to do it because he didn’t know how to. I’m only the third woman he’s ever had sex with so he was pretty inexperienced with everything when we first met. After I “taught” him how to do it he started doing it every once in a while and he got fairly good at it and seemed like he was enjoying it but then he got stationed overseas and was gone for a year. After he got back we went into cycles where I would complain that he never does it then he would do it once to make me stop complaining but then not ever do it again until I started complaining about it again. I have always been very self conscious of my vagina because I have thick legs and it gets very sweaty between my thighs so I always made sure I had showered and washed off before he did it but I still felt like he wouldn’t do it because he thought I was gross. One night when he was really drunk he told me that it’s not that he doesn’t want to do it or that I’m disgusting or anything, he just doesn’t do it because he’s lazy and doesn’t think about it in the moment. Idk, I guess I just need to start asking him to do it but I don’t know how to go about asking someone to eat you out because in the past I’ve always had guys begging me to let them go down on me. Before I got with my husband I never had to ask, asking just seems very unsexy to me. I love going down on him and I just think that oral and foreplay is really hot and makes sex so much more enjoyable. I guess my question is this, what’s a sexy way to ask without just pushing his head down there?