new boyfriend too gentle with sex?

My new boyfriend says that I am the best sex he’s ever had, but I can’t say the same about him. My ex boyfriend was so good at sex and knew exactly what I liked... he was rough and VERY dominant - which worked well because I am very submissive. My boyfriend now is dominant, but not in the way I want him to be. He’s too gentle - the first time we had sex he even asked me if he needed to stop and if I was okay, which I guess was sweet, but it turns me on when boys are focused and rough idk. How do I ask him to venture out into new things? My last boyfriend used to eat me out and that would turn me on so much but my new boyfriend doesn’t eat me out. I’ve given him a couple blowjobs and be loves them but I wish he would return the favor. I don’t know how to ask because I’ve never had to ask before bc my last boyfriend just did it I guess. Any and all help is greatly appreciated :))