So previously my husband & I were renting and have been for a while. We had no problem with that and were saving up for our own house. In about 5-6 years I should be making at least $100k per year alone, but till then my income will be around $45-50k. My husband works but is part-time making $40k because he is considering a career change.

His parents basically heavily pushed us into buying a house now and letting them be our mortgage lenders, saying it would be beneficial for us. They said we were wasting money renting. I didn’t like it...eventually they pulled the rug out from under us when we were in the middle of the house buying process and said they were buying the house and we would “rent” from them. It’s been a couple months and now they’re not upholding any of the agreement about what they were going to pay for. We had to pay for like $20k of expenses for the house already out of pocket and it’s not like we own the house or have any rights to it. There’s no contract.

His parents are narcissistic, manipulative, and abusive at times. We are considering moving out and can help them find other people to rent the house. Question is, should we move back to an apartment, buy our own house or townhome, or stay in this house and save up more? We’d rather not move back to an apartment due to certain logistics in our area. We could probably qualify for a decent small house in our area. Or, we could stay in the house and quietly put up with his parents’ crazy behavior, showing up at our door unannounced, yelling at us because we didn’t pick up at 3 in the morning, asking about my vagina, etc. What do you think?