Please help me.... what should I do???? Am i wrong?

I like this guy so much..... we’ve been friends for 2 years and I never knew he had a baby until 8 months ago when we started having feelings for each other. He found out after a positive DNA test around a year ago and has kept it private until he was able to wrap his own head around it. I feel like im in love with him. He has let me meet his son and he’s a good guy but im nervous... so nervous to be hurt because I’ve been hurt so much. Today is the first day we’ve been this honest about our feelings... heres our conversation... he thinks im trying to punish him or push him away but im not... i love his little man so much and I have no problem with him being in the picture.... i just dont want that baby mama... am i wrong for feeling like this? Am i being shallow? Be blunt and honest with me here ladies/gents because Im in desperate need of advice