Am I asking for too much?

My husband and I just got in an argument. I wasn’t trying to fight. I wanted to let him know how I felt.

We have twin boys. And I have to remind him to change their diapers, feed them. Bath them. Clean the bottles. I shouldn’t have to remind him. He should be doing it. It should be routine. He got mad. Said I was calling him a bad father. Which I NEVER said. All I said was I shouldn’t be reminding you to do things you should be doing. I feel like I have 3 kids instead of 2, then he complains that I don’t give him sex every single day. I’m tired. I feel like a single mom. I get up at least 2 times at night because my boys still wake up. I get up early for work. I work full time. Then I get home and play with my boys, feed them and get them ready for bed. I am exhausted. He will help me if I ask him But I have to ask a few times before he actually does it. I don’t want too keep asking, I shouldn’t have too.