Advice? Encouragement? Idk..

Sorry if it's long.. I need to rant or something..

I'm a SAHM of twins, they'll be 2y.o soon and have been quite a handful lately. My girl is cutting teeth and sooo ornery. My boys favorite word is now "mine". It's 100°+ here almost everyday so most of the day is spent inside.. other than an hour or so in the morning. I don't like going anywhere alone with them unless it's needed because it's a handful! I think they are getting feed up with being inside too? I find myself yelling alot "no..I said No" "get down" "out" I feel terrible. I feel like I'm failing with them. They are picky with food so even feeding them is stressful.

On to my husband. He is amazing at being a husband and Dad. Unfortunately he is in the Army and ever since he put his packet in for retirement his unit has been really messing with him. He works constantly now. Now he comes home more tired in need of a nap and his days off are spent working a 24 hour shift... By the time he gets home he goes to bed and wakes up, eats, showers, spend a couple hours and he's back to bed for work at 5am. I feel guilty sometimes because I'm jealous he's sleeping while the twins are screaming but I know he needs sleep too. He's stressed out, I'm stressed, babies can tell..

My Chihuahua must feel it too because he's been peeing on EVERYTHING! 😠 Which makes me upset with him and I feel bad about that..

Myself.. I feel forgotten. I have 3 siblings and my parents. My Dad didn't call (actually no one called.. they posted a comment on FB) to tell me Happy birthday. They don't check on me they don't ask me about the kids, they all go to visit my sister who lives out of state too but I've had only 3 visits from my Aunt in the last 6 years. My sister gets 5+ visits a year. She doesn't even go home to see family. I go home at least once a year. I've shut my FB off, I've promised myself I will not be traveling to visit them for a long while and MAYBE I'll start seeing them more often?

And just to top it all off... We will be moving back home to our house we had for 8 years just to have my husband's overly controlling, extremely nosey parents as a neighbor. Not to mention we are worrying about the transition into civilian life. He has been in the Army for going on 20 years, I was in for 6 years and with him every since so finding a good paying job with not much experience other than military in a tiny Town is worrying the crap out of us. We also plan to sell our house and move ASAP so we don't have to deal with his parents trying to raise our kids.

I need some words of wisdom, encouragement, a "I've been there too" something. Everything seems to be adding up and nothing is subtracting. I feel myself slowly starting to crumble. I feel so depressed but I try not to let it show in front of the kids. I've talked to my husband about it. I told my brother I feel forgotten and they don't know what to say.