HELP ME!!

This is such a long post but I’m going to need a lot of advice... I am so lost at the moment!

In 2011 I met (WHO I THOUGHT WAS) the love of my life. He was 16 and I was 14, we were so happy being together that puppy love you have whenever you are at that age. Fast forward one year he finally asked me out to be his girlfriend (KEEP IN MIND I STILL HADNT HAD SEX WITH HIM) our relationship only got stronger as the years go by, whenever I was 16 and he was 18 we decided to finally have sex, my mom had already put me on the pill (which I was so against it because of personal reasons) When I turned 18 I got off the pill and was off to college, I didn’t want to be all hormonal in college, the pill caused me to have depression, acne, weight gain (not severely). My boyfriend was already 20 he didn’t go to college for money reasons and I was ok, College is not for everyone. I was getting my degree in management and double dipping into literature. At this point my boyfriend and I had been on the rocks, his family totally hated me he wouldn’t defend me allll because I didn’t want to marry him just yet. This had been going on for a year, since I was 17. I was to young and had a whole life ahead of myself. Fast forward to the last day of my first semester in college (December 2013), I felt nausea and was extremely dizzy. In my head I thought it was just the flu since it had been going on.

My roomie advices me to take a pregnancy test so I did, I couldn’t believe it I was ...pregnant. I felt disappointed in myself. It’s not a bad thing but whenever you are as young as I was you would understand. I immediately called my boyfriend... his reaction surprised me, he was happy and delighted to bring a life into this world.

Fast forward once more to I had accepted my boyfriend’s marriage proposal and was now engaged, I was happier at this moment knowing how amazing life was going to be. But it all ended in May 2014, i now knew the gender of my baby, and we (my fiancé and I) decided to do a gender reveal party. We found out we were having a girl and he wasn’t to happy about it. I was tired of his bs that just piled on and on and decided to end everything, the engagement, the relationship and everything else. He told me he never wanted to see me or the baby, that That baby wasn’t his. So In the beginning of June I decided to drop school at my local community college and start fresh in another place. I decided I needed to move I was now 19 and didn’t need the help of anyone, so I started looking for places to move too... So from San Francisco I moved to Seattle, a super big move. I moved around the time my baby was 3 months old, I had given birth to a beautiful August baby ( she just turned 6 not so long ago ), I left my parents house without nothing besides my babies clothes and a couple clothes in a bag and a couple grand that was given to me by my nana when she passed. But before I left I went and talked to my ex, I told him if he wanted to be in my babies life he could. He didn’t have to be with me. He didn’t want to so I didn’t bug him anymore, I didn’t want to put him on child support so I left it as is.

Mistake number one, remaining friends with his cousins Wife...

Now this is where I need you guys advice. I am now in a different relationship with a different man who loves my daughter and I. I am now 23 years old and my daughter is 5now and SHE KNOWS HER DADDY AINT MY SIGNIFICANT OTHER. She knows her daddy is back in California. I have a great paying job and have my bachelors in Business. My significant other also has a great paying job (we don’t live together) Anyways, this is where mistake number one starts I went back to California in 2017 to visit said ex cousins wife. She has a child of her own that is a year older than my baby. Her husband is a guy who needs to know everywhere she goes. We went out to eat with our daughters to a pizza place and he shows up WITH MY EX WHICH IS ALSO MY DAUGHTERS FATHER. I look at her and at him and she gets read. I get up and call my daughter, I feel embarrassed and humiliated. My daughter comes and I grab our stuff I place down a tip and leave. My “friend” comes out and confessed she told

Her husband that I was coming. And he decided that I was ok to invite my ex.

THATS NOT EVEN THE WORST PART!

My ex now wants for my daughter to stay or for us to stay. He hasn’t changed he is still the same drunk he’s been. He still lives with mom and dad and hardly works I don’t know what to do i don’t want to stay here and leave my new life behind And my new partner but I also don’t want to keep my daughter from her father either.

HELP!