advice, ideas for better sex, how do I please my man when he only likes rough sex?!

Question

Before my husband and I had a baby, the sex was amazing! I felt he did amazing and vice versa. Now, my baby is 4 months and our sex isn’t like what it was (as I expected). I used to ride him so good before 🙁 at this point I feel like nothing is working for me!!! I can’t deep throat because I’d gag and choke. I’m a slow rider which doesn’t please him since it takes him FOREVER to cum unless it’s like really really rough sex, and he’ll be doing all the work 🙃 plus, I don’t dirty talk because idk how.
tonight he just told me I need to step up my sex game 😑 but my body feels so different after birthing a baby idk 
please comment your advice, ideas for better sex, how do I please my man when he only likes rough sex?!

Answer

First of all, congratulations on your little one!! In my opinion, the way he asked you is very important. Did he say “You need to step up your sex game.” ?
Or did he say “Babe, I know your body has just been so miraculous in creating our beautiful family together, but I’d love to try some of the positions in bed that we used to do! You’re so beautiful and sexy and I want you every way I can get you. Rock my world, hunny!!!”
Because if it wasn’t the latter, then you weren’t approached correctly and it’s very important to let him know that. Maybe you can say, “You know, it hurt my feelings that you’d insinuate me to be inadequate in bed after all my body has been through. Telling me that I need to step up my game feels a little cold. I would’ve preferred for you to uplift me in your request and have a warmer, more loving approach. (and then say to him the paragraph above)
Best of luck!!!

Answer

Try masturbating to figure out what YOU like in sex.. if you get turned on itl’ll (1) make you super gushy (2) excite you that you’ll start talking dirty (3) turn him on so y’all can be on the same page.. since the other stuff doesn’t help you, maybe you shld try anal toys in conjunction with clit stimulation.. watch some porns to figure out what other women do to get things going for them and it’ll also help you to step your dirty talk game up..

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