Help I want to leave my husband

My husband calls my ugly when I wear makeup. I feel like I can't breathe around my husband or mother in law! He wont let me have friends or even talk to my family. He won't let me get a job. I told him if he does not change I am going to leave him because I need space. He is cheating on me. I know because my brother in laws girl text me pictures of him kissing girls. I feel like I am just a paycheck for his mom and him. I wanted to buy myself some clothes last month but he used my Social security money for his lawyer and Social security called me about it and I told them the truth. They his mom let him use it for that. I was saving that money to get a place. It is all gone now. I want to leave him. He thinks it is cute that I am afraid of him. He tells me thinks that I fear the most. Like no one will ever love you because of your mental illness and you will never have friends because of your mental illness. When I try to explain something he tells my he is going to leave me because he can't deal with my mental illness. I just do not know what to do anymore. I feel like he just used me so he can get his green card but he can't get it because I will not file the paperwork. Our immigration lawyer told us not he will be deported because of his criminal record. I just feel like I have wasted all of time for nothing.