??? Is it wrong... (prob. TMI)

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Just got married (almost two weeks)....we both kinda thought when we got married that we’d have sex all the time (I mean who doesn’t think that) but then people do say marriage is where sex goes to die. 🙄 With that being said we both were stoked to get married because yeah sex ALL THE TIME, no more sneaking around & of course it just feels right! Ok so here’s the deal... (FYI my religious views don’t believe in using birth control so we use NFP)  We had great sex the night of our wedding & on the honeymoon, like it was GREAT! Real world set in time to go back to work... K I’m lying here (RN) next to my sexy husband & I’m horny AF & he is out COLD! (Previously, we had a convo bout “let’s have sex tonight” “👌🏼”).... was also told (prior to passing out) “don’t wanna have sex as much might get pregnant”🤰🏻K, wasn’t so afraid on wedding night but w/e... ok,ok point is HORNEY AF over here & wondering if it’s wrong to masturbate next to sleeping hubby! 😂😂😂 Ugh... I thought the woman was the one who with held sex... maybe I’ll get lucky 🍀 tomorrow night! Wish me luck 🤞🏼ladies! Night!

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No, there’s nothing wrong with masturbation. What y’all didn’t have sex before you got married? Life happens, it’s pretty unlikely you will have sex every night, even if he says he wants to during the day. Not a big deal

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If I’m laying next to my sleeping boyfriend and I’m honey AF, I just start rubbing him under his boxers (or if he’s showered then I wake him up with it in my mouth)
It’s been 8 years and he hasn’t complained once lol. Even when he’s super tired, he’s down to fool around lol.

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Nope nothing wrong with it. My have a significant to higher sex drive than my SO. I will grab my vibrator and go to town whether he is laying there, asleep, awake, reading whatever lol if he has a problem with it he can jump on and take over! Lol

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Just wake him up

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I’ve done it.

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When it comes to something like this I think you just have to search yourself for the answer. I do not know what your religious views are, but I am assuming if birth control is not permitted, then neither is masturbation or sex before marriage. These are not my particular views, I just think of you have deeply held values and beliefs, or is best to reconcile what’s going on with what you know in your heart to be true to your religion. Maybe check some articles written about the subject, or talk with other women in your religion that you trust.

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I feel like it’d probably turn him on tbh. I don’t think it’s wrong at all, I use to be in a relationship with a girl that didn’t like to be touched and we would actually masturbate in separate rooms lol maybe a lil too tmi

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Oh girl, u need to invest in you! Also, he shouldn’t get too comfortable. He needs to keep exploring u as you do him too. 
1st.) You souls initiate it. He shouldn’t be the only one initiating the foreplay and the sex. Make it easy for him with a little sass! Lol you can start by kissing him, to go gently wake him up. When he wakes rub on him a bit (in the special area) to make sure their is no confusion. Trust me, he will love it. And go down on him for a bit. Then when u want the “D” start to mount him. He will know what to do.
2nd) if the first plan fails and he’s legit too lazy for sex (or tired) pull out the “big guns” lol jk. Just invest in a little bullet vibrator. Trust me, it will be the best thing u could ever want. It will help you get in tuned with your own body. (Why should guys get all the solo fun?) there are a ton of them to choose from. And cutsie one’s. I myself invested in one of the Luxe Collection Vibrators u can just google and it will come upon on amazon. There are 3 of them. I recommend he smoother textured ones, and the one that looks most like a bullet wish I believe is the Electra. 
3rd) There is absolutely nothing wrong with getting to know urself and ur body. It’s weird at first and maybe even a bit embarrassing but don’t let that discourage you. It’s worth it when hubby is or of commission or in commission because he will think it’s hot and get in the mood which is great and maybe even want to help take control.
4) NEVER be afraid to tell ur man what to do or how to do it. If he loves u, he will listen and practice satisfying you. When I use my bullet I ask my guy for “help”. I get him to finger me a bit and it feels AMAZING! Like, it had no business feeling hat good but it does! And then next thing u know he wants in and sex is crazy! 
5) Dildos. I’d start with a beginner one that is small and comfortable. But if u really want to expire ur best options, BadDragon. This is my recommendation to all my friends and ppls that ask. They have all shapes and sizes and 3 different firmness you can choose from. For beginners I suggest medium firmness but u can also have samples u can buy so u know what u want. Also be sure to hit the measurements link underlined above the tab so u can see the sizes for each one because no dido is the same as the other. A small on one might look like a large in comparison to another. So do the maths. I like bad dragon because I think it’s weird having a human colored dildo. The one penis I want to imagine in me is my guy’s not something else so the different shapes and colors are wonderful to choose from. Don’t let them intimate u tho. Some look crazy but aren’t as bad as you think.
Last but not least, Lube it up!!!! U don’t need it with the bullets but with the dildos u do! So make sure u use plenty of water based lubricant on them before u insert. 
😉❤️ happy Hunting!

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Talk to him! When he is awake, and see how he feels about it and respect his wishes. Also in your fertile periods you can have him "help you out" if you know what I mean. Then you dont have to feel bad about masturbating or getting pregnant.

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Nope or maybe use the shower head 🤷🏻‍♀️

??? Is it wrong... (prob. TMI)

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