Lacking arousal

So... I'm having a difficult time being aroused.... and it's killing my husband. But in my head I don't care.... I love my husband and want to please him sexually I'm just not into it. Even when I materbate with my fancy vibrator nothing happens. About 10 minutes into it I just give up.

I've been able to orgasm beautifully with him before but in the passed 3ish months it's just not happening. I suggested we try some different things to get me out of this plateau but nothing's working.

I've tried just not even thinking about it and just focusing on him. So giving him oral and initiating sex and being "on top" but I just feel porn star-ish. He's loving it haha but it's not doing anything for me.

My hubs is now on strike. He won't come unless I do. So anyone else experience this? Any suggestions?