Please help !! ( Short hair problems)

So my hair is just below my shoulders but I can never wear it out because it is too damn thick it just looks chunky and not good !

My natural hair is a combination of curls and waves plus friziness and it is just not an option to wear it out when it's like that!

When it's straightenned it just looks like a block and just not good and I never feel comfertable wearing it out, I don't think I have worn it out for over a year!!!

I am growing my hair out and when it is long it looks stunning but rn it is at that awkward stage ( all my thick hair girls would understand !)

I need ways to wear it out and feel comfertable doing so, should I go get it thinned out at the hair dressers or do any of you girlies have any tips and tricks !

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