Pregnancy and Motherhood Differences

Alright I know this will sound weird and maybe a bit like an argument starter, but I am legitimately curious. Why is it that when women are ttc, lose a baby, or are pregnant we are all supportive and “you can do this girl” mode? But yet when we become mothers, and a lot of women really, really need the emotional support as their baby grows, we start to become hateful. If you don’t believe me join almost any mom support group on Facebook, and read some of the comments. I only ask this cause I don’t like to join predominantly women/mother groups because women get mean. But yet I’m here on Glow and all I see is a lot of uplifting support.

Hell my sister is a first time mom. Right after she had my niece she suffered from post-partum (sorry can’t spell to save my life). She went to the one place we should be able to go for help. A moms support group on Facebook. She posted that she was so sad all the time, that she felt she just wasn’t good enough, she didn’t want to do anything, and it was even hard to motivate herself to clean the house. You know usual things that all new moms feel, and experience. And no lie ladies, there were 50 different comments from different women downing her, and saying she should have her daughter because she didn’t want to clean house. I want to add my sister is a clean freak, so even though she didn’t have the normal drive to do it, her home was still cleaner than most peoples. There were only one person who reached out to her, and told her it would be ok, and that she would get through it. To take breaks, and not to try and do everything. One comment ladies out of 50 in a moms support group.

So I want to know as women, why is it that for the part where yeah it sucks, but is essentially the most exciting, and in a lot of ways the easiest time of motherhood (I’m not including the ttc part of it) we are all supportive and uplifting, but when a lot of women need the support the most, we as a whole sex are mean and spiteful and just plain shitty. I don’t understand it. Has anyone else noticed this?