PSA: there’s a difference between fighting FOR a relationship and fighting IN one

I’ve seen a lot of posts lately on social media about how they won’t give up on their relationship and you have to fight for love. That true love throws hurdles and that nothing comes easy and if it’s worth it then you have to work hard for it and look past whatever has happened. Well I call BULLSHIT! Almost all of the girls posting this crap are talking about abuse or cheating or pure disrespect.

I stayed in an abusive relationship for two years because I thought that if I gave up on him, I must have never loved him. I believed that fighting was a normal part of a relationship but what I didn’t understand was that the roots of the fight is what tells you if it’s worth it. Yeah it’s normal to get in a disagreement every now and then, but there’s a difference between fighting because your boyfriend has another girls nudes and fussing because he leaves his wet towels on the floor.

Fighting for love should mean that you fight outside sources of stress, and you fight it TOGETHER. It’s beautiful when you can stay together despite distance or financial issues or medical emergencies, but fighting each other for a love that should come easy is such a waste of time.

So please girls, stop romanticizing the disrespect you chose to tolerate and give yourself a chance at a fairytale.