My mom keeps telling me she had two toddlers at once also, so she knows what it’s like to have twins. I was nearly 3 when my sister was born. I’m like Mom it’s not the same thing. And she’s like “relax. Yes it is. I know what you are going through is hard, I lived it too. I’ve been there.” And she’s always so dismissive about anything I bring up that I’m going through that I feel is difficult because “everyone goes through it, get over it”. I’m like uhhhhhh it’s totally different!!! But can never think of how to explain to her how it is different so when I say “I don’t know how to explain it” she takes that as a win and feels as though she proved her point to me. So frustrating that she feels the need to make this a competition with me, and isn’t supportive and someone I can go to to talk about things.