Separation? ***UPDATED***

My husband is a great guy. He does everything you could ask him to do. He cooks, cleans, gives back rubs, and really cares for me.

However, he lectures me day in and day out about the things I do to upset him. For example, my best friend and her husband and their child live with us. So my best friend, let’s call her C and I decided to go to the store. I let my husband know and we left....

Well I went to dollar tree, Walmart, and sonic. Mind you, these three things are beside and in front of each other less than 5 miles down the road. My husband and I share our locations.

BECAUSE I HAVE NOTHING TO HIDE!!!

Anyways, I was gone for an hour MAYBE. We just got caught up sniffing candles and getting Halloween decorations. When I got home he lectured me for two hours.

I feel like a little kid. I feel stupid. I hate this. Am I not an adult? Do I not let you see where I am at all times? Why can’t I do anything I want?

When he’s out with friends, I always drive them so they don’t drive drunk. Staying up til 4 am on the weekends to ensure they get home safely. I feel betrayed or inferior.

I also feel like since getting married...he is totally a different person. We never see eye to eye. We are constantly fighting. We never have sex, because I feel like he’s a stranger.

We have only been married 6 months and I just want to leave. I feel like everyone will say I told you so. I don’t care. I want my freedom and happiness back.

We have tried therapy. We have tried talking to friends. We tried time apart. Every time things turn out the same or worse.

All I can think is that, this isn’t the way I want to spend the rest of my life together. We have no debt together. No kids. The only thing we have together is our lease which is up in a few months.

He’s a good guy. He’s just not the right guy for me. I feel guilty even saying that. I love him, but not this stranger he has turned into.

Please, give me advice....let me know what you would do.

Be gentle. I’m losing it.

I want to stay anonymous so I’ll answer your comments here

We dated for about a year and a half, then got married. He has NOT always acted this way. He even admitted that himself.

We have sex maybe once a week, because he badgers me for it. So I pretty much just sit there and take it....

I have told him a million times that all he does is lecture me. He has also admitted he does that as well. Nothing ever changes. He might stop for a day or so after I mention it but it is always continued.

He is pretty busy with work. He’s in the military so we don’t get lots of time for date nights. That was never really something we did, because we just tried to spend time with each other before he was gone for weeks at a time.